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interpersonal skills

Interpersonal Skills: Be kind at the first meeting

It was the habit in some rural areas of old Egypt that a groom before his wedding night would hide a cat in his room. On the wedding night, when alone with his wife, he would move a chair slightly to so as to free the cat. He would then demonstrate his might to his wife by getting hold of the poor cat and strangling it to death! Why? So that the first impression of him imprinted in the mind of his wife would be one of awe! When I graduated from university and took up a position as an instructor at a college, a senior instructor advised me, saying, “Be stern with the students during your first lesson and stare at them with furious eyes so they will Read more ...
The only ayah of the Quran that was revealed inside the Kaaba

The only Ayah of Quran that was revealed inside the Kaaba

Do you know which is the only ayah in the Quran that was revealed inside the Kaaba in Masjid al-Haraam, the Sacred Mosque or Baitullah, the House of Allah? Today let us learn about this ayah, understand the amazing reason for which it was revealed, and also appreciate the miracle that exists to this day! In pre-Islamic times the Arabs used to regard the sanctity of Kaaba but in their own way. During the days of Hajj, the services of providing water to the pilgrims was entrusted to Abbas (radhiallahu anhu), the uncle of the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wassallam. The custodial duty of keeping the keys to the House of Allah and, of opening and closing Read more ...
lower your gaze

The Great Virtue of Lowering the Gaze

~ By Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah   Allah, the Exalted said, "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that will make for greater purity for them. Indeed Allah is well acquainted with all that they do." [Surah Al-Nur 24:30] So Allah made purification and spiritual growth to be the outcome of lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. It is for this reason that lowering ones gaze from (seeing) the prohibited things necessarily leads to three benefits that carry tremendous value and are of great significance. The First: Experiencing the Delight and Sweetness of Faith This delight and Read more ...
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Love during the Time of Quraysh

Love is a powerful theme that features throughout history, with the power to launch a thousand ships or destroy a country. Zainab bint Muhammad (radhiAllahu anha) is an example of the strength of love and a Muslim woman's patience and courage. Although her story does not feature as prominently in Islamic history as some other Sahabiyaat such as her mother, Khadijah, or her step-mother Aishah, she experienced one of the most difficult struggles faced by Muslim women: the battle between true love and spiritual conviction. Zainab bint RasulAllah (Sallallahu alayhi wassallam) was the eldest daughter of RasulAllah (Sallallahu alayhi wassallam) and his Read more ...
hold the stick

Hold the stick from the middle

“You are beautiful. Your house is in order. I don’t deny that the children are tiring you out. However, if only you could look after their clothes more.” “Thank you very much for deciding to teach as a career. Allah has gifted you with a flair for teaching.Your students love you very much. However, I wish that you would not turn up late for work in the morning.” This is how a righteous person behaves with the people. He mentions the good points first and then brings his attention to the faults, in order to be balanced in his approach. When you criticise, try to mention where the person is right before mentioning where he is wrong. Always Read more ...
The sky over the Switzerland is large enough, No to Intolerance. No to the Minaret Ban Initiative

The Swiss who wanted Minarets Banned embraced Islam

The Swiss politician Daniel Streich, who rose to fame as a result of his opposition to mosques in his homeland, Switzerland, has now embraced the faith he reviled. Daniel Streich was a member of the Swiss People’s Party in Switzerland. A well-known politician, Streich led the calls for a ban on minarets across Switzerland. He was active in building anti-Muslim sentiments throughout Switzerland. This sustained campaign led to him being given a high-ranking position in the Swiss Army. Daniel Streich, born in Bulle, Canton of Fribourg, is a Swiss military instructor, community council member and a former member of Swiss People’s Party (SVP). Streich Read more ...
arguing

On “Authoritative Ignorance”: Blind Following and Blind Fitnah – Umm Zakiyyah

THE evening dinner started as usual with casual, lighthearted banter among us sisters who were present. In one comical exchange, a sister shared with us how terribly dry her feet were, so much so that they cracked often. “Sometimes I’m praying,” she said between chuckles, “and I have to keep leaving Salaat to make wudhoo because of my feet!” I creased my forehead. “But why would you make wudhoo because of your feet?” “Because sometimes the cracks bleed.” Oh… “Um…” I said. “You don’t have to make wudhoo because of that. ‘Umar Ibn Khattab kept praying even after he was stabbed, and he was bleeding a lot.” “Well, Read more ...
Good manners in Islam

Purify your intention for the sake of Allah

I contemplated the way some people, some of whom I have lived with for years, deal with others,. I do not ever recall them laughing, or even smiling at a joke out of courtesy, or reacting positively to the person speaking to them. I used to think that perhaps this was how they were nurtured and that they were unable to alter their nature. I was therefore stunned one day to see some of them with a group of rich and powerful people, laughing and being courteous. I then realised that they only did this for their own personal interests and are thereby losing out on great rewards from Allah. A believer worships Allah by being well-mannered and dealing pleasantly Read more ...
Dargahs are places of Bid'ah - Shirk

The Etiquette of Visiting Graves in Islam

Praise be to Allah. Visiting graves to pray to their occupants or seek their help or ask them to intercede – this is a reprehensible action, and indeed it is major shirk. It is not permissible to build mosques or domes etc over graves, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “May Allah curse the Jews and Christians, for they took the graves of their Prophets as places of worship.” (Sahih – agreed upon). And because it was narrated from Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) in al-Sahih that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade plastering over graves, sitting on them and erecting structures Read more ...
Treat your Women well

You must treat your Womenfolk well

My grandfather used to mention an old idiom which says, “When one neglects his she-goat, she brings home a male-goat,” which means that when a woman does not get her emotional needs fulfilled, she responds willingly to someone else who charms her. The point of this idiom is not to liken the man and the woman to a male and female goat – Allah’s refuge is sought! – since a woman is a man’s companion. If Allah has blessed the man with a strong body, He has also blessed the woman with strong emotions. How often do we see brave men and even leaders crumble in front of the emotional prowess of a woman? To deal skilfully with women one should Read more ...