Category Archives: Family

upbringing

You Will Be Accountable O Parents and Teachers

An exhortation for Muslim parents. By: Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jamil Zaynu "O you who believe! Save yourselves and your families from the Hellfire." [Surah al-Tahrim 66:6] Mothers, fathers, teachers, and the society as a whole, will all be accountable in front of Allah about the tarbiyyah (education and upbringing) of this generation. If its tarbiyah is good, then there will be happiness - both in this world and the Hereafter. If it is not, then there will be misery, and it will be a rope around your necks - since there occurs in the hadith: "Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you will be questioned about those who you are responsible for." Read more ...
small-children-lessons

‘Aqeedah Lessons for Small Children

'Aqeedah Lessons for Small Children | Source: Abu al-'Abbas Musa Richardson A six part series of enthusiastic discussions with Muslim children about Allaah and the creation by Abu al-'Abbas Musa Richardson. Musa Richardson interacts with small children in this audio series. From the topics discussed: Lesson 1 : Who is Allaah? Who is our Lord? Did Allaah make us? Did Allaah make the animals? Name something Allaah made in the sea? Who made the sun? Did Allaah make the mountains? Who made the stars? What else did Allaah make? Who made the clouds? Lesson 2 : Allaah Gives Us Food Every Day Does Allaah give us Read more ...
Obedience to Parents

Passages from Sahih al-Adab al-Mufrad concerning Obedience to one’s Parents

Passages from Sahih al-Adab al-Mufrad concerning Obedience to one's Parents. Chapter 1: The saying of Allah the Exalted, "and we have enjoined upon man to be good to his parents" 1/1 From Abu Umru ash-Shaibaanee who said, "the owner of this house narrated to us," and he indicated with his hand to the house of 'Abdullah, that, "I asked the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wassallam), 'which action is the most beloved to Allah?' He said, 'Prayer at its correct time'. I said, 'then which action? ' He said, 'birr (good treatment, kindness) to the parents.' I said, 'then which?' He said 'Jihad in the way of Allah'" 'Abdullah said, "he told me these, and if I had Read more ...

The Lofty position of Mothers

The position of my mother remained unknown to me, until I contemplate what my Lord revealed through His prophet – That I worship none but Him and be kind to my parents and say not a word of contempt in the least bit (uff) and obey in all their orders unless it’s something which Allah has forbidden. And address them in honor and abstain from what they forbid and provide them, serve them and raise not voice in front of them nor fix glance upon them or call them by their names. And be patient with them and out of kindness lower to them the wings of humility and say – My Lord! Bestow on them your mercy as they cherished me in childhood. One Read more ...

Do Not Marry these 7 Women

Do not Marry these 7 types of Women: 1. Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking). 2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you." 3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband. 4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation Read more ...

My little Princesses, you bring to me a heart of Joy

My two little princesses would be back home, insha’Allah around tomorrow. Clearly, you both bring to me a heart of joy and provide great memories and a powerful sense of fatherhood. I cannot wait to be “tied around their little arms”,… entwined I’ve always been. I am again going to enjoy going on outings with them, show them stuffs like pictures and toys, eating meals together, or read stories to them. Basically sharing various activities that we would enjoy together. Their laughing and smiling and reacting with me, and seeing them as such is an amazing feeling, even if one has to act silly for it, or tease them lovingly... oh my darlings!! I Read more ...

Give your children a strong moral foundation

I cannot stress enough beloveds, the importance of strong families. Never neglect family ties, regardless of what religion family members have. Don’t even play around with it when it comes to strengthening and preserving the family. “O Mankind! Fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah, through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer” [Quran, 4:1] When communities fall short, deen will be preserved by the family that holds onto and values faith. When you invest in the family, what you end up with, inshaAllah Read more ...

Domestic Violence: Does Islam give Husband the right to beat his Wife?

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all)" [Surah An-Nisa, 4:34] The above ayah is quite possibly one of the most misunderstood and misused Read more ...

Back to the Basics – Some Prophetic Advice on Raising Children

What we find in Islam is truly a complete way of life. It covers everything, from religious rituals to spiritual advancement and from to marrying to child-raising.  However we often tend to neglect these guidelines by referring to the changing of the times, the excess amount of fitnah that our children are constantly surrounded by and some go to the extent of claiming these guidelines are old fashioned. We rather turn to modern day child-raising advisors, books and theories, than to the very thing that should define us as people, i.e. the deen (faith). The tools for bringing up children are all there (in the Quran, the Sunnah, and the examples of our Read more ...

What is Kindness to Parents?

Abdullah ibn Umar, a leading scholar among the Prophet Muhammad sallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam companions once saw a man from Yemen carrying his mother on his back and going around the Kaaba in his tawaaf.  Rather than show any sign of complaint, the man was happy, repeating a line of poetry in which he likened himself to a camel his mother was mounting.  The only difference is that a camel may be scared by something and go out of control.  He would never go out of her control.  He looked at Abdullah ibn Umar and asked him whether by so doing he discharged his debt to his mother.  Ibn Umar said: “No. You have not even paid back one twinge of her Read more ...