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Interpersonal Skills: Keeping a Secret

A famous old saying goes, "Any secret that passes beyond two is bound to spread." Someone was asked, "Who are 'the two' being referred to here?" He pointed to his two lips and said, "These two!" During the last few years of my life, I do not recall whispering into someone's ear a secret, entrusting him therewith, except that that I made him swear an oath that my secret will remain in a bottomless well! Nor do I recall any of them saying to me explicitly, "Dear friend, please forgive me for I am no longer able to keep your secret." In fact, whenever you inform someone of your secret, he will place his hand on his chest and say, "By Allah! If they put the Read more ...

Interpersonal Skills: Do not be Dictatorial!

Compare between three fathers. Each one of them sees his son sitting in front of the television screen during the days of his examination. The first one says to his son, “Muhammad! Revise your lessons!” The second says, “Majid! If you do not revise, by Allah, I will hit you and I will not give you any pocket money!” The third says, “Salih! Would you please revise your lessons? It would be better than watching television, don’t you think?” Which of the three would be considered best manners? Undoubtedly, the third, since he presented his order to him as if it were only a suggestion. Similarly, it should be the case when dealing with your Read more ...

Interpersonal Skills: Be kind at the first meeting

It was the habit in some rural areas of old Egypt that a groom before his wedding night would hide a cat in his room. On the wedding night, when alone with his wife, he would move a chair slightly to so as to free the cat. He would then demonstrate his might to his wife by getting hold of the poor cat and strangling it to death! Why? So that the first impression of him imprinted in the mind of his wife would be one of awe! When I graduated from university and took up a position as an instructor at a college, a senior instructor advised me, saying, “Be stern with the students during your first lesson and stare at them with furious eyes so they will Read more ...