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Man and woman shaking hands

Shaking Hands between Men & Women

Taken from 'Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah' By the Muhaddith, Shaykh, Allamaa' Muhammad Nasir uddeen al-Albaani Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya Hadeeth No. 529 From Umaymah bint Ruqayqah who said: 'I came to the Messenger of Allaah (Sallallahu alayhi wassallam) along with the women, so that we could pledge an allegiance upon Islaam.' So we said: 'O Messenger of Allaah we pledge allegiance to you that we will not associate anything with Allaah, nor will we steal, nor commit Zina, nor kill our offspring, nor will we utter slander intentionally forging falsehood, nor will we disobey you in a good action.' So the Messenger of Allaah (Sallallahu alayhi Read more ...

The Spirit of Modesty

Many Muslims – myself included — often forget about the spirit of Islam in matters of law and worship. For instance, do we not recite 114 times in the Quran, "In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful" – should this not, then, be the spirit with which all our actions and deeds are performed? Is our worship for anything other than to get closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala (exalted is He) – should this not, then, be the focus with which we perform every prayer? Is the essence of fasting not sacrifice for the sake of Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) – should we not, then, abandon extravagance when it comes to Ramadan? This preamble brings me Read more ...

Inspiration: Men are from Makkah, Women are from Madinah!

Episode-6 from the amazing Inspiration Series by Mohamed Zeyara.

The Great Virtue of Lowering the Gaze

~ By Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah   Allah, the Exalted said, "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that will make for greater purity for them. Indeed Allah is well acquainted with all that they do." [Surah Al-Nur 24:30] So Allah made purification and spiritual growth to be the outcome of lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. It is for this reason that lowering ones gaze from (seeing) the prohibited things necessarily leads to three benefits that carry tremendous value and are of great significance. The First: Experiencing the Delight and Sweetness of Faith This delight and Read more ...

Do Not Marry these 7 Women

Do not Marry these 7 types of Women: 1. Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking). 2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you." 3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband. 4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation Read more ...

The Etiquette of Visiting Graves in Islam

Praise be to Allah. Visiting graves to pray to their occupants or seek their help or ask them to intercede – this is a reprehensible action, and indeed it is major shirk. It is not permissible to build mosques or domes etc over graves, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “May Allah curse the Jews and Christians, for they took the graves of their Prophets as places of worship.” (Sahih – agreed upon). And because it was narrated from Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) in al-Sahih that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade plastering over graves, sitting on them and erecting structures Read more ...

When you sent your eye as a guide…

Allah, the Exalted said,  "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that will make for greater purity for them. Indeed Allah is well acquainted with all that they do." [Surah Al-Nur 24:30] So Allah made purification and spiritual growth to be the outcome of lowering the gaze and guarding the private parts. As  Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah said: When you sent your eye as a guide For your heart one day, the object of sight fatigued you For you saw one over whom you had no power Neither a portion or in totality, instead you had to be patient. Therefore when the sight is prevented from looking and Read more ...

And His Cries Went Unheard : Husband Abuse Unveiled

Written By : Umm Zakiyyah “I DON'T care who’s listening,” the sister spoke angrily into her friend’s phone, prompting the other sisters in the room to look in her direction, concerned expressions on their faces as they halted their own chatter amongst themselves. “I have somewhere to go, Abdullah.  I’m tired of this—“ There was the muffled sound of a man’s voice coming through the receiver. “No, no, I’m not going to be patient.  You are so irresponsible.  I can’t depend on you for anything.  I swear!” More muffled sounds. “You are such a stup—” The sister stopped mid-syllable as the phone line Read more ...

After Being Raped, I Was Wounded; My Honor Wasn’t

Posted from NYTimes | By: Sohaila Abdulali THIRTY-TWO years ago, when I was 17 and living in Bombay, I was gang raped and nearly killed. Three years later, outraged at the silence and misconceptions around rape, I wrote a fiery essay under my own name describing my experience for an Indian women's magazine. It created a stir in the women's movement — and in my family — and then it quietly disappeared. Then, last week, I looked at my e-mail and there it was. As part of the outpouring of public rage after a young woman's rape and death in Delhi, somebody posted the article online and it went viral. Since then, I have received a deluge of messages Read more ...

Standing and Urinating in Islam

It has become a common practice in many parts of the world for men to stand and urinate. The presence of urinals in almost every male bathroom has not only taught, but also encouraged people to stand up while relieving themselves. What does Islam say about this behavior? First of all, we must remember that our ability to digest food and drink is a great blessing from Allah. We would not be able to survive without a digestive system. However, with every blessing comes a responsibility. Since human waste is classified as impure, Islam teaches us a few rules about how to relieve ourselves with dignity. So what’s the problem? There are many Islamic Read more ...