Tag Archives: Kindness

The Deeds of the People of Paradise and of the Fire

Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (d.728H) recounts the deeds of those who shall enter Paradise and the deeds of those who shall enter the Fire. Ibn Taymiyyah was asked, what are the deeds of the people of Paradise, and what are the deeds of the people of the Fire? So He answered - All praise is due to Allah, Lord of all the worlds - An action of the people of Paradise is Faith (eemaan), and righteousness (taqwaa), and an action of the people of the Fire is disbelief (kufr), and corruption (fusooq), and disobedience ('asyaan). So the deeds of the people of Paradise are faith in Allah, and His angels, and His books, and His messengers, and the Last Day, Read more ...

Interpersonal Skills: Convince him of his error so he may accept advice

Some people tend to engage others uselessly by offering excessive unsolicited advice and remarks, which may be solely based on their personal liking. For instance, after attending a wedding party that you and your wife had planned and organised, an invitee complains to you, “Dear brother, the wedding party was not very appropriate. You tired yourself in vain. I was under the impression that the party would be of a higher standard.” “How so?” you ask, civilly. He says, “Dear brother, most of the meat was fried. I personally prefer boiled meat. The salad was sour due to too much lemon, not exactly to my taste. The sweets were all decorated with Read more ...

Inspiration: Mercy to the world

Episode-11 from the amazing Inspiration Series by Mohamed Zeyara. Allah says in the Quran: "And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah's) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)." [Quran, 3:159] The Prophet commanded that no animal be tortured or over-burdened, while assuring that no active kindness towards them will go unrewarded in the hereafter. Abu Huraira reported Allah's Read more ...

Interpersonal Skills: Smile and keep smiling

I have known a person for years, as he is one of my work colleagues. Would you believe me if I tell you that to this day I do not know if he has teeth or not! He is constantly frowning and sulking, as if smiling may decrease his age or wealth! Jarir bin ‘Abdullah al-Bajali said, “The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu alayhi wassallam) never saw me except that he smiled at me.” Smiling is of various types and of different levels. One type is to be constantly cheerful, where your face is always bright with joy. If you are a teacher and enter the classroom to see your students, meet them with a cheerful face. If you board a plane and walk through the Read more ...

Interpersonal Skills: Respond to mistreatment with kindness

Most commonly when you deal with people, they treat you how they want to treat you, and not how you want to be treated. Not everyone you meet with cheerfulness is cheerful to you in return. Some of them may even become angry, think badly of you and ask, “What are you laughing at?” Not everyone you present a gift returns your favour. You may give gifts to some people only to find them backbiting you in various gatherings, and accusing you of being foolish and wasting money! Not everyone you are kind to in speech or praise generously or use kind words with responds to you in kind. Allah has divided up manners for people, just as He has divided up their Read more ...

You must treat your Womenfolk well

My grandfather used to mention an old idiom which says, “When one neglects his she-goat, she brings home a male-goat,” which means that when a woman does not get her emotional needs fulfilled, she responds willingly to someone else who charms her. The point of this idiom is not to liken the man and the woman to a male and female goat – Allah’s refuge is sought! – since a woman is a man’s companion. If Allah has blessed the man with a strong body, He has also blessed the woman with strong emotions. How often do we see brave men and even leaders crumble in front of the emotional prowess of a woman? To deal skilfully with women one should Read more ...

The Quran and Sunnah on Parents

What the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) teaches and says about Parents and Kinship? KIND TREATMENT TOWARDS PARENTS AND ESTABLISHMENT OF THE TIES OF BLOOD RELATIONSHIP Allah, the Exalted, says in the Quran: "Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and (those slaves) what your right hands possess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;-" (Surah Al Nisa' 4:36) "...Fear Allah, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the Read more ...

Video : Irritating Parents!? Think Again.

  What does Allah (SWT) commands us? "Allah has ordained for you, that you worship none but Him, and to be kind to our parents And if any one or both of them reach old age do not say a word of contempt or repel them but address them with honour, and speak to them with kindness, and lower your wing of humility and pray to Allah (SWT) -‘My Lord, bless them as they have cherished me in childhood." (Surah Al Isra' 17:23-24) Read more ...