Tag Archives: Hudaybiyyah

Interpersonal Skills: Do not be Dictatorial!

Compare between three fathers. Each one of them sees his son sitting in front of the television screen during the days of his examination. The first one says to his son, “Muhammad! Revise your lessons!” The second says, “Majid! If you do not revise, by Allah, I will hit you and I will not give you any pocket money!” The third says, “Salih! Would you please revise your lessons? It would be better than watching television, don’t you think?” Which of the three would be considered best manners? Undoubtedly, the third, since he presented his order to him as if it were only a suggestion. Similarly, it should be the case when dealing with your Read more ...

Hold the stick from the middle

“You are beautiful. Your house is in order. I don’t deny that the children are tiring you out. However, if only you could look after their clothes more.” “Thank you very much for deciding to teach as a career. Allah has gifted you with a flair for teaching.Your students love you very much. However, I wish that you would not turn up late for work in the morning.” This is how a righteous person behaves with the people. He mentions the good points first and then brings his attention to the faults, in order to be balanced in his approach. When you criticise, try to mention where the person is right before mentioning where he is wrong. Always Read more ...