Category Archives: Family

What is Kindness to Parents?

Abdullah ibn Umar, a leading scholar among the Prophet Muhammad sallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam companions once saw a man from Yemen carrying his mother on his back and going around the Kaaba in his tawaaf.  Rather than show any sign of complaint, the man was happy, repeating a line of poetry in which he likened himself to a camel his mother was mounting.  The only difference is that a camel may be scared by something and go out of control.  He would never go out of her control.  He looked at Abdullah ibn Umar and asked him whether by so doing he discharged his debt to his mother.  Ibn Umar said: “No. You have not even paid back one twinge of her Read more ...

Islamic Guidance: Husband and Wife Relationship

Islam is not merely a religion that asks to you worship and get closer to God. The religion guides humankind in each and every aspect of life. It is a way of life that is not limited to your relation with God, but also tells you how you should go about with other people, be it your parents, or your siblings, or friends and neighbors or your children or even your spouse. Before the advent of Islam, ignorance and wilderness were spread everywhere. Women had no rights neither as sisters, nor as daughters and not even as wives. The religion of Islam came and elevated the position of women. Where it laid down a few rules and principles, it also laid down Read more ...

Importance of Parents

Abdullah ibn Umar, a leading scholar among the Prophet’s (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) companions once saw a man from Yemen carrying his mother on his back and going around the Kaaba in his tawaf. Rather than show any sign of complaint, the man was happy, repeating a line of poetry in which he likened himself to a camel his mother was mounting. The only difference is that a camel may be scared by something and go out of control. He would never go out of her control. He looked at Abdullah ibn Umar and asked him whether by so doing he discharged his debt to his mother. Ibn Umar said: “No. You have not even paid back one twinge of her labour pain when Read more ...

To my child

An emotional poem written by a father whose 10 month old daughter was diagnosed with brain cancer. The poem reminds us how much we should appreciate our daily life with our precious children. Let us live every moment with gratitude! To my child Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying. Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is. Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry and pick you up and take you to the park to play. Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how Read more ...

And His Cries Went Unheard : Husband Abuse Unveiled

Written By : Umm Zakiyyah “I DON'T care who’s listening,” the sister spoke angrily into her friend’s phone, prompting the other sisters in the room to look in her direction, concerned expressions on their faces as they halted their own chatter amongst themselves. “I have somewhere to go, Abdullah.  I’m tired of this—“ There was the muffled sound of a man’s voice coming through the receiver. “No, no, I’m not going to be patient.  You are so irresponsible.  I can’t depend on you for anything.  I swear!” More muffled sounds. “You are such a stup—” The sister stopped mid-syllable as the phone line Read more ...

WHY me, Allah? Why me?

‘WHY me, Allah? Why me? Why not anyone else? Was I the only one created to suffer difficulties in this life?’ I recall getting stuck in problems a few years back. The problem was really serious, and I had transgressed this time. I felt as though I had betrayed my own family and myself. It isn’t easy for anyone to go through a storm, especially when you have absolutely no one by your side. I still can’t forget those painful days! As I had no one to help me, no one to talk to me, no one to listen to me and no one to stand by my side, except my family and a few friends, but the problem was something that I had to come out of myself. I was left Read more ...

Kids listen to our deeds

How many times have you told your kids to change their clothes / brush their teeth / do their homework / or anything else for that matter? There is really no right answer because there is really no limit to the number of times we have to ask our kids to do something. For most of us, this is a normal part of our daily lives. We ask, and ask, and ask, and if we are lucky, our kids cooperate after the fourth request or after a loud but otherwise harmless scolding. We complain that our kids never listen to us; we ask other parents how they get their kids to behave, eat their vegetables, or go to sleep. We consult books and Internet sites at all hours on Read more ...

Good parenting is like being a Good Muslim

"A father cannot give a better gift to his child than a good education." (Tirmidhi) Becoming a parent was an amazing experience. I am blessed with two beautiful baby girls and I pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala (Glorified is He) that He raises them as good and pious human. Good parenting is like being a Good Muslim – both require continuous struggles to stay focused on our goals (that is, if we take the time to even set them in the first place), being conscious of the consequences of our choices, an ongoing and honest evaluation of ourselves, and the best efforts to improve our condition. "Allah does not change the condition of people until Read more ...

Treasure Your Parents

It’s a classic movie scene, almost cliche: a grown child leaving home as his parents standby watching. The mother, usually weeping, is being consoled by her husband. Today's children think that it was the parents who were losing in these situations. Typically the child is beaming, excited at the new prospects that await, while the parents are sad as their progeny heads forth to tackle the world alone. In reality, that is not the case; in fact, it is the child who loses the most. As we grow up, it seems as if we develop a sense of independence and self-reliance. We like to do things for ourselves – we enjoy setting our own schedules and determining Read more ...

The Etiquette of Dealing with Parents and the Elderly

Yasir Qadhi | The Etiquette of Dealing with Parents and the Elderly Source : http://muslimmatters.org/ Lecture by Yasir Qadhi | Transcribed by Sameera [The following is the video and transcript of Shaykh Yasir Qadhi's lecture "The Etiquette of Dealing with Parents and the Elderly" at the United for Change "Our Families: Our Foundation" conference in Montreal.  The transcript includes slight modifications for the sake of readability and clarity.] ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ Al-salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh In Surat’l-Kahf in Read more ...